OK...Melinda told me that the massages help her to sleep at times when she is having trouble sleeping. I definitely vote for the MASSAGE.
All other money...in just my opinion...should always go towards what Melinda would want...I truly believe what touches her the most is our continued support of her charities. The scholarship fund is our current charitable project (MNM will always be) and it is in need of "support" right now. So, I vote we put all efforts towards her charities.
As a "PO-PO," I can't really condone the radar detector, although I think it is a funny gift. It is money towards an object/material gift and not what Melinda really values (again, my opinion).
So, PO-PO here votes Massage and Scholarship donations.